So, a main goal was to show
how the children have a lot to
deal with as much as the parents
do, in break ups and separations,
and honesty is the best
policy? Liar Liar was one film
that stuck out in my mind as
touching upon this concept.
Yes. Andy was in danger of being
dishonest to himself and to Carol
by proposing a marriage that
would certainly have been "comfortable,"
but not one based on
the deep currents of romantic love.
When he's honest with Lucy (Carol's
little girl), I think it's an emotional
and meaningful moment. Life's paradoxes are painful.
The Lucy/Doug (Carol's exboyfriend)
dynamic shows that
the cat and mouse game
between opposite sexes starts
early. Lucy, as a young girl,
many not know it, but she is
modeling her mother in her
rigidity and lack of lightness.
Doug is a symbol of the freedom
she could have later in life
if she could lighten up a bit.
Tell me a bit about the evolution
of creating this young girl
with an old soul.
As I mentioned before, Lucy is a
character who very much came
to life on her own. By that I
mean that her POV and dialog
just came spilling out onto the
page without a great deal of premeditation.
Since I've experienced
the wounds of divorce
amongst friends and family, seen
how the kids are often neglected
in the equation, Lucy's plight is
all too familiar.
Lucy's dialogue is just witty
enough in the script for it to be
believable with her 11 years on
Earth as an observant mature
kid. Is this the parallel you are
after-with kids having the freedom
to tell how they are feeling
without having the understanding,
while conversely, adults
understand but won't say how
they feel?
Yeah, I think oftentimes kids just
come right out and state the
obvious, say what needs to be
said in a given moment, without
pondering or calculating so much.
That can be a good thing. Or
very embarrassing. My daughter,
who at the time was quite a bit
younger than Lucy, walked in
and looked at my good friend
and said, "Wow, you've got a
really huge nose." We just sat
there for a second, then burst out
laughing. What the hell else can
you do? His nose really is quite
impressive, I think he's actually
won some awards.
When your life is thrown for a
loop, I have found that there are
these slow reflective moments,
like realizing the rush rush rush
of your 20's is over and now it
is time to ponder. Are these
your thoughts behind Andy
giving in to his confusion,
walking in the rain, standing
under a gushing down spout?
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Andy stands under a rainspout,
purposefully getting drenched
because I once did it after a girl
broke up with me. I was going
for drama and hoped she was
watching. She wasn't, and I
ruined a perfectly good sweater.
The driving mother who has it
all together challenged by the
daughter who 'feels" emotion
and can't understand why, in
the 7th grade, she is being driven
to think about college.
Explain this dynamic's growth
in the story.
Sometimes parents are so focused
on planning for the future, working,
saving money, looking into
good schools and colleges, that
they forget to live in the moment,
which is something kids do
exceedingly well. This is another
anecdote, but I recall being
stressed and trying to hurry my
daughter out of a grocery store.
She wanted to walk out slowly,
stepping only on the gray tiles,
not the white ones. I was about to
yell at her when it hit me that I
was being idiotic. Why the hell
not step out on the gray squares?
I did, and shared a moment with
my daughter. We laughed.
Jamie and Lucy negotiating in
the park is great. Jamie is the
30-something adult needing to
have this wonderful spontaneous
love and Lucy is the young girl
desperately needing the same love and protection without the
sex. What is your message here
in this parallel of how we look
at love as a need as we age?
Again, I think it touches on the
innocence of childhood and how
their needs are so unclouded by
lust. Lucy needs Andy for a
father, a friend, someone to hold
onto. But she also needs to learn
that there's something else afoot
in the dance of love, and that is
what adults call romantic love.
Once she begins to experience
those stirrings in her own heart
she can finally understand Andy's
predicament.
When Lucy discovers that her
birth father abandoned her,
and Carol won't be marrying
Andy, she says, "I just can't
seem to keep a man." This is a
huge impact on a child and her
growth in future relationships.
Are you giving a message that
we have to "own" what we
start, even as young adults?
In this scene, Lucy's just sharing
her emotions, telling Andy the
truth, that she feels responsible
for her father leaving, which is
what kids so often do. Blame
somehow makes the whole situation
make some kind-of painful
sense, whereas grownups shuffling
about, changing partners,
falling in and out of romantic
love, no matter who's hurt-this
doesn't make a great deal of
sense to a kid.
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